Monday, November 25, 2013

Wedding Planning Adventure: How to find your ring size the easy peasy way!

Well I admit am such a shy person, hahahah I know for some this would come as a surprise but really scouts honor am your typical shy girl.
 So when I gave Jowaness an assignment to find a wedding ring supplier he asked me this question..
"What's your ring size?" in which I replied "Errrr! I don't know." hahahahhah he then explained to me that the jewelers in Manila would require this information in order for them to quote a price.


 He then suggested that I go to any jewelry shop here in Singapore and asked if they could help me find my ring size, I was shocked!! I said NO!! hahahahah ok ok people in Singapore are generally nice and helpful but just the thought of me asking. I just have to find a way.

And Bouyah!! Google came to the rescue

There are tons of online stores that could help you find your ring size all you need is a printer :-)
The following are may favorites.

http://www.buybluesteel.com/
www.bluesteel.com
 Aside from offering affordable rings, you could download their printing ring size finder. They have three methods which are String, Paper and Surprise. How could you go wrong.

Download the file here

http://www.pandora.net/en-sg
http://www.pandora.net/en-sg
You have to print out the page on a A4 paper and place one of your rings against the circle. When the circle and the internal diameter match, you have found your correct ring size. They also have a conversion chart.
Download the file here

http://www.silverworks.ph/
www.silverworks.ph/
This is a Manila based jeweler, I was quite impressed that offer this service online. Just like Blue Steel they have three ways wherein you could find your ring size.
Download the file here


Well you're the eco type of person? Don't fret there are ways you could find your ring size without printing.

http://findmyringsize.com/
http://findmyringsize.com/
 The interface is easy and fun to use but if you don't want to accidentally to scratch your lappy screen then better have this one a pass.

Last but not the least, do it manually

(from Wiki How)
What you need:

A string or strip of paper
Ruler






http://www.entia.com.au/resources-and-information/ring-size-chart/

See, it wasn't that hard right? Oh, do measure 2-3 times just to ensure that you have the right size.










Sunday, November 24, 2013

Wedding Planning Adventure: 100 Questions To Ask Before You Say, “I Do”

I have not said this enough, planning a wedding is not an easy task and no one would be prepared for it, at least that's how I started this journey.

I stumbled upon this article at lovethegrows.com early this year when I was doing some research about our Church requirements Pre-Cana Seminar and our Canonical Interview.

Found it interesting and decided to ask the questions to Jowaness during my trip to manila last June.

We sat down and started to answer the questions, well for most of the questions we had discussed it at a certain point in our 16 year stint as jowaness.

But it was just refreshing to sit down and answer the questions, dont worry the questions are not threatening but it would just assure you that, you do know what you're getting into and that you know who you are marrying. We did not quarrel about our differences but we compromised :-) see we are in a good start.

I know 100 questions are overwhelming, you could do it over coffee, sipping wine, or maybe while watching TV (which we did)

So just give it a shot. Be open and honest. You never know what can happen.

Sex/Romance/Love

If we eliminated physical attraction from our relationship, what would be left?
What is the best way for me to show that I love you?
If I put on weight, will it affect our sexual relationship? How?
Is it important for you to know that I'm a virgin? Why or why not?
What do I do that causes you to question my love?
What turns you off sexually?
How would our relationship be affected if for medical reasons we could not have children?
Do you think being in love means: (1) Never having to say you're sorry, (2) Always having to say you're sorry, (3) Knowing when to say you're sorry, or (4) Being the first to say I'm sorry?

The Past
Which childhood experiences influence your behavior and attitude the most?
Could any feelings of affection and romance be revived if you met a previous boyfriend/girlfriend even though you feel strongly committed to me?
Is there anything in your past I should be aware of?
What did you dislike the most about your previous partners?
If your past boyfriends/girlfriends listed your most negative characteristics, what would they be?
Do you keep letters and memorabilia from past relationships? Why or why not?
Are you comfortable continuing this relationship if there are things in my past that I am not willing to share with you?
Have you ever been involved in any criminal activities? What were they?
Did your mother or father abuse each other or you in any way- sexually, emotionally, or physically?
Have you ever been able to overcome a bad habit? What was it?
Have you ever been violent in past relationships?
Trust
Have there been times when you were uncomfortable with the way I behaved with the opposite sex? If so, when and what did I do?
What do I do now or what could I do in the future that would make you mistrust me?
Would you be comfortable transferring all your money into my bank account?
Who comes first, your spouse or your children?
Is trust automatic until something occurs that takes it away, or does it evolve over time?
Do you trust me with money?
Is it permissible for us to open each other's mail?
The Future
How are we different? Could this be a source of future conflict? Do our differences complement each other?
Do you anticipate maintaining your single lifestyle after we are married? That is, will you spend just as much time with your friends, family and work colleagues? Why or why not?
How did your family resolve conflicts when you were growing up? Do you approve or disapprove of that method? what will you change or not change to resolve conflicts in your future family?
Is there anything about marriage that frightens you?
Would you prefer to live in the city, the country, or by the beach? Why?
If I wanted to move away from our families for work, would you support me?
How would it affect you if I travel on my own frequently to (1) visit family, (2) earn income, (3) pursue a hobby, or (4) deal with stress?
Suppose we are experiencing trouble in our marriage. In what order will you seek help from the following to resolve our conflicts: (1) divorce lawyer, (2) your parents, (3) a brother or sister (4) a marriage counselor, (5) me, (6) a church leader? Why?
How will you support my hobbies?
How do you feel about having our parents come to live with us if the need arises?
Is there anything you would regret not being able to do or accomplish if you married me?
How will we schedule holidays with our families?
Children
Do you want children?
If we are unable to have children, should we adopt?
Do you anticipate raising our children (1) the same way you were raised (2) completely differently from the way you were raised (3) a mixture of both?
How long would you like to wait before having children?
Other than formal schooling, what types of education will our children get and how will they receive them?
When we have children, who will change the diapers, heat the bottles, prepare the meals, do the housework, bathe the child, get up in the middle of the night when a child is crying, take the child to the doctor, buy clothing, and dress the child?
What types of discipline would you implement to correct a child's or a teenager's behavior? Were these practices you experiences or are they new ones you have developed on your own?
Annoyances
If I had bad breath or body odor or wear dirty clothes, will you tell me? Should I tell you? Why or why not? How should we do it?
What is nagging? Do I nag? How does it make you feel?
DO you approve without reservation of the way I dress?
What does my family do that annoys you?
Would it bother you if I made body noises all the time, like passing gas or burping?
Is there anything you do in your line of work that I would disapprove of or that would hurt me?
Do you believe that you should stick with a marriage if you are unhappy all the time?
When do you need space away from me?
Communication
Whenever we have difficult feelings about each other, should we (1) remain silent, (2) say something as soon as the difficult feelings arise, (3) wait a certain amount of time before raising the issue, or (4) do something else? If so, what?
If you always say you are going to do something but never do it, what is the most effective way to bring this problem to your attention?
What did you admire about the way your mother and father treated each other?
What is the best way for me to communicate difficult feelings about you so that you are not offended?
Who should know bout the arguments we have?
What makes you not want to talk to me?
Do you feel you could communicate with me under any circumstance and about any subject?

Finance
What justifies going into debt?
What are all your current personal debts?
Do you feel stress when facing financial problems? How do you deal with that stress?
How often do you use credit cards, and what do you buy with them?
How should we prepare for a financial emergency?
Do you feel that lack of money is a good reason not to have children?
When our child is born, will he or she go to daycare or will one of us stay home to take care of the child? Who will it be?
Will we have a budget?
Who will pay the bills?
How do you feel about helping me pay my debts?
What are your feelings about saving money?
Do you prefer separate bank accounts or assets in different names? Why?

Miscellaneous
How would you rank all the priorities in your life: work, school, family, spouse, friends, hobbies, and chuch? Does your ranking reflect the amount of time you spend on each?
Are you closer to your mother or father? Why?
Do you prefer a set daily work schedule or flexible work activities and timetables?
What do you fear?
What influence, if any, do you believe my family should have on our relationship?
Do you believe that our parents should know our financial condition, whether good or bad, just because they want to? How far should this go?
What are your views on pornography?
How would you react if our son or daughter told us they were gay?
Do you harbor any racial prejudice?
How do you feel about having guns in our home?
Is there anyone close to you who feels we should not get married? Why? Should we discuss this?
What health problems do you have?
Have you ever had any psychological problems?
When you are in a bad mood, how should I deal with it?
Do you like pets?

To download: Printable Version

Hmm? this gave me an idea, maybe on our yearly anniversary we would re-visit these questions.. I can't wait :-)
 


Happy Tummy: Dan Ryan's Chigago Grill

It was those rare Saturdays that Kuya Pau has to work, initially I was just planning to have our lunch at our ever reliable hawker centre, but being the coach potato that I am while waiting for Kuya Pau I decided to watch Master Chef and just like that my craving for something sweet hit me. I did try to get rid of this craving and posted it here and failed.

Kuya Paulo arrived and I was able to convince him to go to Dan Ryans Chicago Grill, one of our go to places when we need real American food, told Kuya Pau that Dan Ryans has not disappointed the carnivore in us so maybe it wont disappoint my sweet tooth too :-)

 So together with Kuya Pau and our trusty eating companion Mr Yerzy Carbon we headed out to Dan Ryans.

Dan Ryans is located at Tanglin Road, the nearest MRT station is Orchard which you have two options take a bus and alight in Tanglin Mall or walk, we decided to take the bus :-).

Their brunch menu is quite extensive, but I am here with a mission, to finally have this craving put into a stop hahahahhaha

To start as off we ordered

Nachos
The chips were crunchy, it had enough toppings of salsa, guacamole and cheese that even the last chip would have its own share of topping.


Buffalo Chicken Wings
 What could I say, the wings are great, seasoned well and their blue cheese... I could dip anything and it would still taste good.
New England Clam Chowder
Their Clam Chowder is one of the best, its has the clam flavor and creamy, you dont even need to put salt or pepper.

Yes, we are famished for we hadnt had our breakfast and its 2:30 pm, you would not want to see the Galang Siblings hungry but I was proved wrong I would not like to see Mr Carbon hungry for he is one grouchy guy hahahahah

While waiting, they would serve you this basket of freshly hot bread. It smelled delish and tasted even better. I made a mistake and took a photo just when Mr Carbon is about to take one, and he told me that he would show me a video that pertains to me. ( Video would be posted at the end )

And for our mains:

Kuya Pau
U.S.Rib Eye Steak
Kuya Pau is a proud carnivore, he loved the way the steak is seasoned and cooked the way he likes it Medium Rare, sadly to say some restaurant would not be able to do it.
The meat in tender that it melts in your mouth.

 Mr Yerzy Carbon
Baby Back Ribs
Again, the Ribs did not disappoint Mr Carbon the meat is tender the sides that came with it was seasoned Ohhh!! don't forget the gravy for the mashed potato its uber delish that you have to stop your self in getting a straw and sip the gravy :-)

Chuchubells
Blueberry Pancakes
This was it!! the reason why I drag them out, the pancakes!! It was three hot big pancakes, the butter on top was almost melting sipping into the pancakes and the maple syrup was to die for, it complimented the fluffy pancakes with tons of blueberry. Sweet but not empowering. The comfort food that I was craving for.  After each bite I would just give out a sigh...

Ok I know that in my previous post I would be rating each food individually but then not being biased this would not apply to our visit in Dan Ryans.

We loved the food from start to finish, it's everything that we wanted and Kuya Pau is giving it a thumbs up!!!

Our Tummy Verdict:

We are stuffed as in really stuffed that we did not have any desserts :-(. So we decided to walk to Orchard MRT Station to help us digest our food.

We looked and feel like Polar Bears stuffed and getting ready to hibernate, but it was totally worth it.

Dan Ryan's Chicago grill again made the 1 hour travel worth it.

Dan Ryan's Chicago Grill
#B1-01, Tanglin Place, 91 Tanglin Road
67382800

Mon - Fri: 11:30 - 00:00
Sat - Sun: 11:30 - 17:00





Wedding Planning Adventure: Arrahe (Unity Coins)

Picture from https://www.facebook.com/unitycoins
When I started planning our day, I did not give so much attention to the Arras that is needed during the ceremony until I stumbled upon an article in the W@W website.
It was beautiful and I liked that each coin in the Unity Coins set has a unique design, representing one of thirteen universal tenets of marriage

Picture from https://www.facebook.com/unitycoins

 So what is an Arras what does it symbolizes, well the teacher in me had to do some research about it so Google said:

The word arras is a Spanish word meaning "earnest money", "bride price", or "bride wealth". The custom of using coins in weddings can be traced to a number of places including Spain and Rome. The Spanish tradition includes treating the set of coins as a representation of the bridal dowry or a way of hastening prosperity, and is placed inside decorated boxes or trays.
 
picture from http://greenbrideredux.blogspot.sg

In a wedding, an arrhae (wedding coins or arras as it’s known here in the Philippines) traditionally symbolizes the groom’s ability of to support his bride and confirms his position as the breadwinner of their future family. The thirteen (13) arras coins represents wealth and prosperity for each month of the year with an extra to spare assuring luck for the newlyweds and their future family the whole year through and beyond.

The ritual of the arras, where the groom would pass the coins to his bride, has always been an integral part of every Catholic Filipino wedding. This symbolic rite was influenced by the Spaniards centuries ago as they brought Christianity here in the Philippines. Similar arras rituals are still practiced today in Spain and Mexico. For us Filipinos, the arrhae gave way to the addition of another little boy in the wedding party — the Coin Bearer! Just like the Ring Bearer, this role is usually reserved for a favorite nephew or a good friend’s son.

But while the traditional arrhae have come to only symbolize material wealth with the man pledging support for his wife, today’s couples face married life together in a more mutually-supportive way than ever before. This has been the guiding inspiration for the Unity Coins — the 21st century update of the traditional wedding arrhae. The coins bear symbolisms that affirms the wedding vows as each coin represents one of the thirteen universal tenets of an enduring marriage.

My research gave me a deeper sense of the meaning of the Arras, and that getting married does come with great responsibility and commitment. And these is one of the many moments that I missed my Dad and Mom, I would imagine them telling me all these customs and traditions and what it means instead of me relying to Google. Haiz! now am in my Tita Me Emo mode :-(

So let's get back to my Unity Coins adventure

Picture from https://www.facebook.com/unitycoins
In the W@W Unity Coin Website or Facebook Page there's a list of shops wherein you could purchase the Unity Coins.

Picture from https://www.facebook.com/unitycoins
The price is quite steep since we are still paying off some of our suppliers until year end so Jowaness and I  decided that we would just purchase it next year.

Then a sign came, ( am a firm believer in signs hahahah) the W@W Auction. My first auction, and I was excited, I registered with the only intention of bidding for the Unity Coins.


It was a fun experience, you would be high when your the highest bidder and you would be anxious when you're out bidded, but this story has a happy ending.


Ok dont over react, I did won and my final bid was PHP 2,550 so thats roughly only PHP 200 savings, but here is the surprise!! Ma'am Benz asked me to pay PHP 2200 only she wanted to give her W@W Brides a substantial discount, Yahoo!! another great wedding gift :-) Remitted the payment, sent her the slip and delivery address...

And the following day Jowaness received


Am so happy! Planning to put it on our altar after our big day as our constant reminder not only the tenets of marriage but the commitment that we made :-)

If you want to have your own Unity Coins please visit the links below

Unity Coins
Website: Weddings At Work
Facebook: Unity Coins



 



Saturday, November 23, 2013

Wedding Supplier: The Flower Expert: Angel D. Lopez Sr. (Flowers)


 When I started planning our big day, I was set into making my own bouquet my rationale was I don't see the reason why I must waste such beautiful fresh flowers which we would only be using for a few hours don't get me wrong I love flowers. So I did different DIY Projects which you could find all here.

Then my sisteret Chiqui wanted to have fresh flowers although she claimed that she loved my DIY. She did give me a solution to my worry of wasting the flowers, she suggested that we could offer our bouquet to Mama Mary, we would leave our bouquets in the Church. What a great idea!

So to my Googling skills to the work, I did find a few Florist and emailed them my peg

The Flower Expert was a Jowaness find, he is starting to get the hang of scouting for affordable suppliers yeheey!!! Although he still has tons of things to tick of his assignments am glad that this is finally settled.

He was able to get a good deal, Sir Angel is a nice guy he would work around your budget and give you more than you bargain for, am excited :-) 

Sir Angel's usual clients are hotels and convention functions you should check out his Facebook page to see his works they are all lovely, that is why we are quite surprised and delighted when he agreed to do our bouquets.


Female
1 bride - special bouquet(pure red roses) 
1 MOH - Arm bouquet 
3 brides maid - Arm bouquet 
3 jr brides maid - Wrist corsage 
3 SS - Wrist corsage
4 flower girls -  Basket and head dress 
1 mother of the groom - Chest corsage
5 PS - Chest corsage 




Male - boutonniere
1 groom
1 BM
3 GM
3 jr gm
5 PS
1 Brother of the Bride

Flowers to be used: Carnation, Gerbera,Red roses



The Flower Expert by Angel D. Lopez Sr.
2377 Int. 5B Pasig Line St. Sta. Ana, 1009 Manila, Philippines
Phone: +63 02 5621630
0915-6703434 - globe
0928-6870563 – smart

Email: angel.lopezsr@yahoo.com
Facebook: The Flower Expert by Angel D. Lopez Sr.